Discover how Vulnerability is Power!
Posted in Being a Goddess, Sensuality, Successful Relationships, With Others, With Yourself on 14. Sep, 2010
Vulnerability is Power…. Most women when asked what being vulnerable means to them will state something along the lines of; it makes me feel weak, it’s a sign of weakness, I’m unsafe when I’m vulnerable or being vulnerable scares me… Very few women or men see the beauty that dwells deep within the state of vulnerability. Like most people, I was also bought up to think being vulnerable meant I was not strong or in some kind of danger… Until the day I discovered that vulnerability was my long lost friend and a continuous source of my innate power!
If you looked up vulnerable in the dictionary the definition is described as being open to emotional harm, easily persuaded, failure and exposed to attack. So how can being vulnerable or putting yourself in vulnerable situations possibly be your greatest source of inner strength?
What if you were to overcome ‘emotional harm’ and ‘potential failure’ and discovered the greatest love of your life because you dared to risk emotional harm to get it? Is that not powerful? Doesn’t that take a lot of courage?
What if, instead of failing in life’s ventures because you didn’t even try, you took the risk and enjoyed wild success? Wouldn’t it be worse to never have tried in the first place? What could be worse than staying where you are and complaining about it?
Have you ever experienced the dynamic excitement and adrenalin rush of doing something thrilling, perhaps the one thing that made the activity so exciting int he first place was that there was an element of you having to be vulnerable and in an apparent dangerous situation in order to have the experience. If you never put yourself in a vulnerable situation, you’ll never know the glory and excitement that is on the other side.
If you never put your heart on the line, open it, give it all, feel the fear and love anyway, you will never enjoy the absolute abundance of love that awaits you. Your partner will love only half of you, the half you choose to reveal? Is that real love?
Being vulnerable is opening your heart and exposing who you really are,regardless of what it might cost you. It is your most authentic self being revealed. There is a beautiful real and rawness I love that comes from being so truthful. You see we are all the same. Everyone feels vulnerable, everyone has fears and insecurities about something… So if everyone was just being themselves, saying how it is for them, being who they are on the inside then everyone would be al lot happier and far less stressed.
It takes a lot of work ‘editing’ ourselves to blend into what we think other people will accept and love. Most people walk around with fear of being rejected or not being accepted and this is a major problem. The lack of self confidence in our society is in epic proportions….For fear of being vulnerable?
So what if you just said ‘fuck it’ and did what you wanted (in an ecological way of course), became who you really desired, said what you really felt, wore what you love the most, climbed out of conformity and totally fell in love with the strength and rawness of you being you? Do you think being vulnerable would be such a problem then?
I love vulnerability, it’s like a hit of adrenalin for me… If an opportunity presents itself, be it a moment to share my feelings or do something outrageous and it brings up stuff for me that makes me feel fearful or vulnerable, exposed… I know without a doubt I must do it, whatever it is (realising I have good judgement and wouldn’t jump off a building or anything silly like that)…. WHY? Because EVERY time I do something that pushes me out of my comfort zone and into the abys of unknowns, I grow as a woman and I learn and I become even stronger and more in love with myself.
What if it back fires or goes horribly wrong? The only thing that could go wrong is you not learning from the experience, then it becomes something for you to complain about or feel miserable about. You could even say, “I tried that once and it didnt work” and never do it again… A travesty in the making!!! I bravely shared my feelings with someone recently and resisted feeling hurt when he didn’t feel the same, I’m sure I’m not the only one that has happened to, right?
What I learned is a very important lesson for all of us…. Giving must be without expectation of return. When you share something from your heart it is just that, nothing more, nothing less. The power we seek comes from your ability to be vulnerable in that moment and courageously give without expectation, simply because that is your truth, it’s how you feel. When you come from the space of love and truth, being vulnerable is beautiful, it’s luscious and divine and extremely attractive, it’s unpretentious and so ‘real’….
And most importantly, as a woman you will grow and flourish the more you strive to be vulnerable. Feel the fear and do it anyway… And enjoy the many gifts that come your way. I dare you! xxx
Yours Real and Raw
Janelle Manton
Top Secret Women’s Business
This is the most amazing thing I have read for a long time. I just this week had a conversation with my best friend on how when strong women allow themselves to be vulnerable they actually gain so much more than they lose, because the leap of faith into the unknown is so much more brave than if you are in a perpetual state of vulnerability all the time. It takes great strength & a committment to the getting of wisdom to go further into the unknown for the pursuit of knowledge and life. It is the difference, I believe, between existing & actually living this amazing experience, called life.
Thank you Janelle.