Perfect Relationship Secrets Revealed – No. 4
Posted in Being a Goddess, Sensuality, Successful Relationships, The Power of Connection, The Power of Sex, With Others, With Yourself on 22. Aug, 2010
Sex baby!!! Everyone knows that sex in an important factor in a relationship but do you know just how important a healthy sexual relationship is?
There are many reasons why sex makes it into the top 5 Perfect Relationship Secrets (in fact I think its No. 1) and here is why:
When all is said and done make up sex is awesome, intense and like medicine for the soul. Make up sex reconnects you spiritually, emotionally and mentally. Sexual connection can be a godlike experience and when you have make up sex, it’s often the best sex of all.
After nearly ten years of marriage, my husband and I never had make up sex. Instead, he would ignore me for days while in his ‘cave’ making sense of our argument and I would then withdraw, retract, shrink, feel rejected. The result was to not trust him with my emotional self, I slowly withdrew from him. The power of feeling ‘unattended’ has in a relationship is devastating and very destructive, especially to your authentic self…. So I found out, but that is another story…
It’s critical to communicate in your relationship (as previously discussed) and to reconnect as soon as possible after a disagreement. Withholding will cause a bigger problem than the reason you chose to fight in the first place. Mamma always said never to go to sleep without settling your disagreement… And I agree, sex can be a fun way to do just that.
Sex is a gateway to connecting on a soul level with your partner and developing a special bond, deep levels of trust and spiritual connection. During a love making session you become you’re most vulnerable self, surrendering and opening your loving heart like a blossoming flower. Here you find freedom of expression and the opportunity to see your partner like no one else. There is a deep expression of giving and receiving which only enhances your connection.
Sex feels good and there are lots of reasons to have lots of it… Throughout the day, the body and mind goes through many physical and psychological challenges, and when you engage in sexual activity or masturbate to achieve orgasm, that stress can be reduced by the release of endorphins. Endorphins are powerful compounds that resemble opiates and are also known to be the body’s natural pain-killers. Hence the reason why sexual activity is often encouraged to cure headaches and menstrual cramps, as the release of endorphins can increase pain tolerance by as much as 70%.
So when you are feeling more relaxed with a higher pain tolerance, there is less about life that is able to bring you down, less for you to complain about which means a happier more positive living environment for everyone. Sex is fun and everytime you have fun with your partner, you share and increase the bond between you. Laughter is magic in a relationship.
It’s a well known fact that sex is good for your physical health. During sexual stimulation, the production of the chemical phenetylamine (known to curb the appetite) increases. Serotonin levels in the brain also become elevated during sexual activity and can promote a sense of well-being that has a calming effect on cravings, such as those for junk food or cigarettes. So, instead of heading for the refrigerator, perhaps you should head for the bedroom!
Sex also burns calories. Engaging in an hour of foreplay and intercourse burns approximately 140 calories, and beats sweating on the treadmill any day. And as a woman, we know that when we feel great our bodies, we feel more confident and our self esteem blooms. This means a better mood, more connection…
Men need sex to feel love, where as women need love to want sex… So, when you make love to your partner, you give him an opportunity to connect with your heart in a loving way, he then feels more love for you. The result is you are more emotionally satisfied and content.
Orgasms help you sleep better as endorphins race through your body and release tension. The desire to then curl up next to your spunky partner and sleep like a princess is increased, you both feel more connected and close. There is nothing as yummy as sleeping snuggled up with your partner after a good sex session.
Having regular sex with your partner (I consider this 2-3 times per week, but you make up your own mind) creates a win/win for both of you. Sadly, there are many couples whose sex life slowly deteriorates as times goes by. For many reasons, instead of increasing your connection and deepening the love you share, resentment builds up, withdrawing from sex becomes more regular, complacency kicks in and problems get bigger.
Don’t let sexual complacency happen to you. If you are falling into the category of a declining sex life, do something about it. Talk to your partner, create opportunities to reconnect, dare to do something a little outrageous – You’ve got nothing to lose!
Most importantly, if all else fails, ask for help. Get some coaching; I am only too happy to help. There is no reason why you shouldn’t be enjoying amazing love making till the day you pass on… And many reasons that could be stopping you, childhood experiences, social conditioning, self confidence…. so be willing to talk to someone about it.
In the meantime, make love, not war! Be a sexy diva and make him wild with your Goddess sexuality… It’s your birthright!!!
Yours Real and Raw
Janelle Manton
www.topsecretwomensbusiness.com
You make a great point here Janelle. Thanks! It reminds me that I better have more sex to keep my man happy. The next question…
How do I get myself in the mood 2-3 times a week. Between working, being mom and wife… the time seems to disappear and then I’m tired… or full of excuses!
I’m sure I’m not the only one out there like this…
Ladies what do you do to put it all behind you and get excited to be with your man 2-3 times a week?
It is worth it… it does feel great and is such a great way to connect. Hmmm…
Hi Keri, Thanks for your comment, you bring up a very valid point when on a daily basis women we are running around changing the world… My suggestions are simple ones (nd i will be writing an article about it soon)…
Remember that your head is your bigggest sex organ so your mindset is critical. Sex with your partner is all about you (and him) so you can be mum, the career woman and then make sex about you, giving back to yourself and your man. Get excited by the thought of having something totally for yourself.
Be sure to transition in between roles, more on this in my next article and remember which polarity you are in. Are you in your feminine or masculine energy? Your hubby is going to want his woman in full femme mode for such occasions… And lastly, remember sex can be quite energising and is great for stress relief.
Have fun honey and look out for my upcoming articles.
Hugs
Janelle